Written by sex journalist and expert, Gabrielle Kassel, for The Cowgirl.
The Cowgirl and The Unicorn can deliver plenty of ooh’s, ahh’s, and O’s on their own. But incorporating a butt plug into sex machine play can add a new flavor of pleasure to your repertoire.
Here, learn exactly why you should wear a plug while your ride—plus exactly how to incorporate the plug for maximum pleasure.
What Is The Purpose of A Butt Plug, Exactly?
True to its name, a butt plug is designed to plug your peach. The term plug may remind you of tubs and toilets, but trust, plugs are indeed pleasurable.
“Butt plugs are designed to create a sensation of internal fullness,” explains Lisa Finn, a sex educator with Babeland, a sex toy mecca that sells The Cowgirl. It can also create a consistent pressure against prostates and G-zones, for people with prostates and vaginas, respectively. According to her, both of these nerve-dense erogenous zones are reported to respond favorably to consistent pressure. These specific hot-spots aside, butt plugs stimulate all the nerve-endings at the opening and along the anal canal, which can flood the body with an overwhelming pulse of pleasure.
“Beyond pleasurable physical sensation, butt plugs offer exploration,” says Finn. Exploring different sexual acts help us build confidence in our sexual prowess, as well as teach us more about our preferences, tastes, and bodies. “Butt plugs are still taboo in some circles, so they can help people play with the taboo of anal sex,” she says. They can also be used to enrich a kink or power play scene or dynamic. (See More: 10 Best Anal Sex Tips).
How To Use A Butt Plug With The Cowgirl For Maximum Pleasure
1. Pick your plug
Most but plugs are shaped like home-grown carrots or Christmas trees. The bulbous head is designed to be hugged by your anal canal to hug, the slim neck gives your anal opening something to close against, and the a flared base is a safety measure. “The flared base is the part of the toy that is larger than the rest,” explains Finn.
The ass does not have an anatomical end zone (like the vagina). “The flared base keeps the toy from getting lost inside the body.” (Just FYI if that does happen, head to the ER. A medical professional will need to help you retrieve the toy).
Beyond making sure your butt plug is body-safe, you also want to make sure it’s the right size for you. The best way to do that? Think about how many fingers you enjoy in your butt, measure the circumference of those, and then aim for something about that thick.
If you’ve never had a finger or anything else in your as before, start with the smallest plug you can find. The b-Vibe Vibrating Jewel Plug ($124.99) and The b-Vibe Vibrating Snug Plug ($94.99) are good picks.
2. Get lube
“The ass never self-lubricates,” says Finn. So, considering lubricant is the thing that makes skin-to-skin and toy-to-skin contact pleasurable , you’re going to need to squirt some store-bought slippery stuff into the sex session. “Without the addition of store-bought lube you risk discomfort as well as anal injuries like fissures and tears,” she says.
Convinced? Add a long-lasting oil-based lubricant like the Coconut Love Oil ($24.99) to your card. If you have a water-based lubricant like the Le Wand Water-Based Lubricant ($14.99) already, that will work, too. Just make sure to reapply often, as the body is apt to absorb water-based lubricants into your body.
3. Figure out your attachment
Next up: Let your anatomy and pleasure-preferences help you choose your attachment.
If you have a vagina….
If you have a vagina, you can wear a plug with a penetrative or non-penetrative attachment. “Wearing a plug while having one of The Cowgirl attachments your vagina can create a really erotic sensation of fullness and pressure,” explains Finn. Additionally, the two canals are only separated by a thin wall of tissue. “So, when you put something in your butt, it can actually make the vaginal canal tighter,” explains Finn. This can make it easier for the penetrative attachment to target your G-spot, she says. Hello, G-spot orgasm! (Read more: What Is Double Penetration, Exactly?).
For vulva-owners, another option would be to wear a plug while grinding against one of the non-penetrative attachments, which are designed to stimulate the clitoris and the other nerve-dense parts of the vulva. This combo is especially optimal for people who find vaginal penetration emotionally or physically. Or, for those who are menstruating and don’t want to worry about a little blood.
If you have a penis…
If you have a penis, outfit your machine with one of the non-penetrative attachments. You’ll want to play around with how you set up and your position on the machine. If you want the vibration to primarily target your perineum, set up the machine so that you can lean back on a bed or sofa. This will help you tilt your pelvic up, which gives the giant vibrator greater access to the nerve-dense regions under your penis.
If you enjoy strong vibration on the head or shaft of your penis, you have options. One option is to lean forward into an all-fours position while straddling the machine, using your arms to help modulate the intensity of the vibration. A second option is to tilt the machine on its side and then allow yourself to press your junk into the attachment from a standing or seated position.
“The sensation of having something butt while something else stimulates your penis can be really pleasurable,” says Finn. “Between the prostate stimulation and penile happening, there's a lot of orgasmic potential.” (Read more: Prostate Orgasms 101).
4. Take your time
Now that you’ve got all your tools, it’s time to put them into action!
To start, turn yourself on the way you might before putting anything into your body! Whether that means massaging your muscles, pinching your nipples, grinding against the couch, take whatever steps you usually take to get yourself revved.
Next, slowly tease your anal opening with a lubed-up finger (or anal-safe vibrator). This will help the anal sphincter muscles relax. “When you’re ready, slowly ease the plug in,” says Finn. “Stop and slow down at any signs of pain.”
Finally, mount The Cowgirl or The Unicorn and let what feels good guide you.
