Squirting 101: How to make yourself (or your partner) squirt

Squirting 101: How To Make Yourself or Your Partner Squirt - The Cowgirl Blog

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Squirt(le) may be the name of a cute Pokémon and something water guns do.

But squirting can also refer to the release of fluid through the urethra that some vagina-havers experience in response to sex or pleasure.

Today we’re going to focus on which of the three we know you’re most interested in (wink). Scroll down for a lesson on squirting from sex educator and world record holder for volume squirting Lola Dean.

What is squirting?

Let’s answer that and other squirting FAQs right here and now.

Is squirting actually real?

Do you think we’d whip up an entire sex-ed article explaining something that isn’t even real? The answer, Dear Pleasure Seekers, to your latter question is no.

The answer to the former is Y-E-S.

That said, squirting IRL may not look like squirting in the porn videos you’ve seen online. Often X-rated feels make squirting look like The Fountain of Geneva—in short: Squirting videos you’ve seen, quite embellish the act.

While some people *do* gush fluid in real life, people can also experience squirting as a dribbling, puddling, pooling, spurting, or sprinkling of fluid.

How much fluid is released when someone squirts?

It varies!

Research shows it ranges from anywhere from 0.3ml to more than 150ml. That’s anything from a few droplets to half a cup.

Is squirting just pee or is it something else?

According to both Jean and research, something else.

One 2018 study published in the International Urogynecology Journal found that squirt fluid is made up of creatine, urea, and uric acid, all of which are found in urine.

Lest you think that because something contains the ingredients of pee it *is* pee consider this: Frittatas and omelets can contain the same ingredients yet be completely different, as do lasagna and bolognese.

Still, says Jean, asking if it’s pee is the wrong question. “Why are we asking if it’s pee,” she says. “Pee is sterile, so who cares if it’s pee so long as it feels good.” *Claps*.

How does it differ from ejaculate?

While “Ejaculate”, and “squirt” are terms often used interchangeably, scientifically speaking they are two distinct phenomena.

The main difference is the ingredients within them, according to the aforementioned International Urogynecology Journal study. Ejaculate, according to the researchers, refers to the thick, milky prostatic fluid produced in the Skene’s gland. This fluid is similar to semen, though of course, does not contain sperm.

Ejaculate, unlike squirt, does not contain creatine, urea, or uric acid.

Who can squirt and where does it come from?

Anyone who has a vagina, a urethra, and Skene’s gland has the requisite biological parts to squirt.

But that doesn’t mean everyone who meets that criteria will squirt in their lifetime—estimates suggest that only somewhere between 10 and 54 percent of these people will.

Of course, who’s to know if more education on mechanics would increase the percentage of people who do squirt.

What does it look like?

“Similar in consistency to pee, but different in color from both pee and ejaculate, squirt is typically cloudy in color and not very thick,” says Jean.

Though, that can vary based on things like your current hydration levels, time of the month, recent alcohol and food intake, and more.

What does it smell and taste like?

It varies from person to person, squirt to squirt.

Common adjectives for the smell and taste, include:

  • Slightly sweet
  • A little salty
  • Sour
  • Sweaty
  • Wheat-y

Is squirting synonymous with orgasming?

The two terms are *not* synonymous.

Nor, do they indicate each other. A vagina-haver can squirt without having an orgasm, as they can orgasm without squirting.

What does it feel like to squirt?

Depends who you ask!

Jean says, “It feels like when you have to sneeze, and then finally do sneeze. Or when you have an itchy spot and then someone finally itches it. It’s a release. It feels good.”

Other’s say it feels orgasmic. Some say it feels akin to peeing.

Tried and tested tips on how to squirt

Considering it can feel good, you might be interested in squirting yourself or helping your partner get there.

That’s why we asked Jean to share her best tips, techniques, and positions for squirting. You’re welcome!

1. Start solo

“If you haven’t squirted before, it can be helpful to explore on your own using your hands and toys,” says Jean.

Because there are so many fewer factors that can interfere with your ability to squirt, such as:

  • Performance anxiety
  • Fear over what it will feel, taste, or smell like
  • Lag in communication
  • Delay time between communication and adjustment

2. Explore internal and external stimulation

Common belief says that internal G-Spot stimulation is a m-u-s-t for squirting to occur. But Jean is proof that that isn’t universally true. “I can squirt using an air suction toy on my clit,” she says.

That’s why she recommends exploring internal stimulation, external stimulation, and dual stimulation to find what works for you.

As with most things in the bedroom, “there’s not one squirting that is going to work for everyone,” she says.

3. Get your tools

Can you squirt using your hands? Maybe!

But toys don’t get tired, so they’re able to provide more consistent stimulation than your hand. In some cases, toys can also provide a sensation that your hand will never be able to like sucking, pressing, or vibrating.

Some toys we recommend for exploring pleasure ft. squirting include:

4. Get really really really turned on

“Once you find something that feels good, keep playing around with that,” says Jean. Squirting, after all, happens in response to arousal so you probably want to be, yanno, aroused.

“When you’re aroused, your genital erectile tissues fill with blood,” she says. So if you notice your genitals getting plump, puffy, and darker in color, that’s totally normal.

5. Practice doing Kegels

Kegels = an exercise that involves clenching and then relaxing your pelvic floor muscles.

You shouldn’t start kegeling without first getting the green light from your gynecologist or pelvic floor therapist because kegeling can worsen certain pelvic floor conditions. But, assuming your pelvic floor passes inspection with flying colors, Jean says kegeling may help your squirt.

“Many people can hear the sound of the fluid inside their body— or get up to the point of having fluid in their body to release—but then can’t release it,” she says.

Doing Kegels can train your body to contract and relax your body the way you need to be able to do for the fluid to expel.

6. Try doggy style

There is no *one* position for partnered penetrative play that is more likely to help you squirt than others.

But Jean recommends giving doggy style a try because it “gives the person who is being penetrated control over where internally the penis or dildo is pressing against.”

Her recommendation: While being filled, oscillate between cat and cow until you find the angle that makes you moan loudest. For people who need internal pressure to squirt, this may do the trick, she says.

7. Hop on a sex machine

Whether you’re partnered or not, if you’re interested in exploring hands-free stimulation you might consider investing in a rideable sex machine like The Cowgirl.

The Cowgirl is a high-powered vibrator that is designed to be straddled. With the ability to be outfitted with a variety of internal, external, or internal *and* external attachments, no matter your personal stimulation needs for squirting, this machine can help deliver.

Need deep stimulation, for example? Try the Bronco. Need shallow penetration? Try the Lone Ranger. And, if you need external stimulation? Opt for either the Rawhide or Bareback.

8. Feel good? Keep trying!

“Squirting likely isn’t one of those things that you’re going to learn how to do in a day,” says Jean. “It may take some trial and error.”

So, assuming you enjoyed the process of learning more about your body, keep on learning more!

Who knows maybe you will squirt.

Or, maybe you’ll learn that you prefer deep penetration to shallow penetration. Or, that you prefer vibrating toys to sucking toys.

What if I can't squirt—or can’t help my partner squirt?

No stress! “Some bodies do things that others cannot and squirting is just one of those things” says Jean.

And if you haven’t squirted (or never do!) fear not. “Squirting is not the epitome of pleasure,” she says.