Hidden Valley Original… Newman’s Own Extra Creamy… when tossing a salad, there are many toppings at your disposal. A true chef knows that you can’t make a salad without licking a few buttholes. But perianal pleasure isn’t plainly a promenade in the petunias. Rimming done right is a full-blown act of coitus in itself and if you can’t lick it, then you’re missing out on a hole world of pleasure.
We’re diving tongue first into what it takes to reach the rectal realm of refined rimming.
What is a Rim Job?
Rimming, tossing the salad, biting the peach, or whichever other term you want to use for a good ole ass munching is the colloquial vocabulary for analingus or oral sex performed on the anus. Contrary to the “eating” heavy imagery of the terms, rimming is more focused on the licking aspect, giving external stimulation to the perianal area. This usually involves (but by no means is limited to) circling the booty hole using the tongue with the occasional dip into your southern gorge of glee.
Why is Rimming Popular?
So why should you take your tongue for a sphincter spelunking? Other than just feeling sexy, the perianal zone (or area surrounding your anus) contains thousands of nerve endings that react to pressure, texture, and temperature stimulation while activating the pleasure sensors of the body. With the sensitive nature of your tushie tissue, the tongue makes an amazing partner for providing a mix of softness and temperature variation, as well as providing its own natural lubricant.
Not to mention, the sensitivity of this area is more heightened the less explored it is. As this area is typically unexplored (especially for heterosexual couples) the nerve endings are more receptive to what it senses as “unusual contact”. This means if you’re a first-time feaster, or you only have a few Thanks-give-ings a year, this erogenous zone will be even more heightened for reacting to rimming.
A Beginner’s Guide to Rimming
Step 1. Presenting What’s on the Rim Job Menu
Like all sexual acts, gaining your partner’s consent for rimming is essential before going tongue first into Hidden Valley Ranch. Not only is it just the right thing to do, but unannounced tickling of such a sensitive area could result in a reactive (and warranted) kick to the face. Be sure to discuss with your partner first about rimming and gain their trust and comfort before venturing into any new sexual acts.
REVEALED: What to eat before anal play!
Step 2. Meal Prep (cleanse the tushie, not the teeth)
Now, we are never here to kink-shame; you should be free to explore and enjoy any aspect of your sexploration that makes you and your partner feel good safely. That being said, from a health and wellness perspective: E. Coli is not fun. While some may get off on the fecal or “forbidden dirtiness” of analingus, cleaning your ass before taking a dip in Lake Tongue-Hoe not only provides a more tasty and pleasant experience for the giver but can also help prevent an uncomfortable tummy later. If you do get off on the raw scent of ass, try asking the receiver to douche before doing some physical exercise. This way, you can knock out the potentially harmful bacteria while still getting that sweet whiff of slade sweat.
While keeping clean is important, it is also good to know what to NOT clean immediately before rimming. While the giver might think it’s good to freshen up their mouth before any type of oral performance, the fluoride present in most common toothpaste can wreak havoc on the heinie. Not only will the chemicals still present in the mouth illicit a burning and-not-in-the-sexy-way sensation of the anus, but the fluoride from toothpaste can also throw off your anus’s PH levels, leaving the receiver potentially with days of discomfort. Likewise, tooth brushing can cause microtears in the mouth and gums, leaving a potentially easy pathway for STIs to sneak their way into the bloodstream.
Step 3. Chow Time
Now that we’ve discussed the menu and prepped the course, it’s time to feast!
Like all other forms of oral sex, alternating techniques and reacting to the receiver’s pleasure is paramount for the crescendo of our oral orchestra to climax. When rimming the first and most notable maneuver is keeping with the namesake. The most basic and often pleasure-inducing method of analingus is to caress the tongue over the bumpy rim of the anus in an oval formation. Vary the pressure and flaccidity of your tongue during this motion to keep the receiver’s nerve endings from getting used to the sensation. The more you are able to vary the motion by changing your tongue shape and pressure, the more pleasure the receiver will get. Alternating your rotation or breathing heavily onto the tongue to warm it will add an even higher sensation.
Another method to alternate into your rimming is the ever joked about tossing of the salad. With this motion, do a little tip dip with your tongue into the cave of wonders and flick it out suddenly. This will caress the edges of the anus while also teasing the internal sphincter muscles and providing a more full-body experience. The receiver may also tighten and release their sphincter around the tongue, alternating the sensitivity of the motion and giving them a sense of control over the tongue possessor.
Don’t forget about the supporting actors in the performance, either! Sticking just to the rim and anus for the whole show can be a bit one-note. Switch up your tactics by taking the tongue to taint town to apply pressure and wetness to this hyper-sensitive area.
Things To Consider About Rimming
Here are some things to consider before giving your partner a rim job.
Are You Going To Prep Your Salad?
Here’s the thing: Anal play will not get you face to face with your partner's “dung.” Poop just simply passes from the colon through the anal canal on the way out of your body. However, a booty is still a booty, and we all know what it does. If you’re worried about the smell or cleanliness, don’t make it awkward and mention it to your partner. Take a shower together to try and set the mood and try to use fragrance-free types of soaps to prevent irritating the anus.
Giving Oral Anal? Avoid brushing your teeth!
You don't want to brush your teeth for two hours before or after rimming because if you get any micro tears from brushing your teeth, you may get an infection in your mouth.
Avoid licking back to front.
For vulva-owners, you already know the dangers of wiping back to front. In case you don't: UTI is something you may have experienced.
The same goes for anal. Going back-to-front can also transmit certain bacteria from one location to another. And! If a partner has vaginal gonorrhea, licking from vagina to anus can introduce the infectious bacteria to the anal canal.
Don’t Forget To Lube!
While rimming is an excellent exercise to prep and relax the anus for anal, it should not be the only step. No matter how sloppy your joe might get, saliva is not a substitute for anal lubricant. Before engaging in anal sex after rimming, it is important to slather up the sphincter with an ample amount of anal lubricant. If you want to couple the action of rimming with lubricating, using a thick lubricant that is flavored can help facilitate lubrication while also giving the person rimming a pleasant flavor pairing.
Solo Rimming
If you find yourself craving rimming, but don’t want someone else’s tongue up in your business, you can replicate the sensation (or even amplify it) with the right sex toy.
For the action of rimming mixed with internal sensations, try the b-Vibe Rimming Collection. These plugs a first of its kind, with a motor in the neck and internal beads that massage the rim for a mouth-free ass eating
If a realistic sensation is more your bag, then using a glass dildo with a tongue shape can help to replicate the feeling of the real thing. Glass dildos are smoother and made of shatter-proof, borosilicate glass (so put your mind at ease about any glass fears). The other fantastic aspect that’s glass-tastic is its ability to be warmed for temperature play. Replicate the feeling of a moist, warm tongue by wrapping your dildo in a hot towel before play to really amplify your sensations.
On the hole, rimming is a feast for everyone. Once you’re put forward the proper conversation, prep work, and technique, you’ll be ready to outfit a full spread feast with a cornucopia of pleasure.
