How to Use a Sex Machine: The Ultimate Guide for First-Time Riders

You've heard the buzz about sex machines. Maybe you've seen them in porn, stumbled across them while browsing, or finally decided to invest in one after years of curiosity. But now you're staring at this impressive piece of equipment wondering: how do I actually use this thing?

Here's the truth most guides won't tell you: not all sex machines work the same way. The technique for riding a saddle machine is completely different from positioning a thrusting machine, which is different again from using a handheld device. Using the wrong approach for your machine type leads to frustration at best and discomfort at worst.

This guide breaks down everything you need to know about every major type of sex machine - from setup to cleanup, beginner basics to advanced techniques. No matter what's sitting in your bedroom (or arriving in discreet packaging), you'll know exactly how to get the most pleasure from it.

Understanding the Different Types of Sex Machines

Before we get into technique, let's clarify what we're working with. Sex machines fall into three main categories, and knowing which type you have determines everything about how you'll use it.

Ride-On (Saddle) Machines

Saddle machines - also called ride-on vibrators or mega vibrators - are devices you straddle and grind against. Think mechanical bull meets luxury vibrator. These machines deliver intense vibrations through attachments while you control the pressure, angle, and movement with your body.

Premium saddle machines like The Cowgirl or The Unicorn Sex Machine deliver up to 6,500 RPM of vibration power along with optional 360-degree rotation. They support weights up to 400 lbs and feature padded saddles for comfort during extended sessions.

Best for: People who prefer grinding over thrusting, those who want hands-free stimulation, anyone who enjoys being in control of depth and pressure.

Thrusting (Fuck) Machines

Thrusting machines use a motorized arm or mechanism to move an attached dildo in and out, simulating penetrative sex. These range from large floor-standing units to compact tabletop models and portable devices. The machine does the thrusting work while you position yourself to receive.

We stock several thrusting dildo machines with adjustable stroke depth, variable speeds, and remote control options.

For riders who want the best of both worlds, The Cowgirl Saddle delivers a true 3-in-1 experience. This portable powerhouse comes with two magnetic-switching attachments: a textured vibrating shaft with an angled head for G-spot precision, and a dedicated thrusting attachment that delivers lifelike in-and-out motion. Add in the self-rocking saddle movement that mimics the rhythm of riding, a clitoral tapper with 5 adjustable speeds, and an anti-gravity swing design that mounts to beds, couches, or tables - and you've got a machine that adapts to however you want to play. All controlled via wireless remote, whether you're riding solo or handing the reins to a partner.

Best for: People who crave deep, rhythmic penetration, those who want to replicate the sensation of partnered sex, anyone whose arms get tired using traditional dildos, and riders who want versatile stimulation options in one compact machine.

Handheld Sex Machines

Handheld machines are portable, lightweight thrusting devices you hold and maneuver yourself. They offer the penetrative motion of larger thrusting machines in a compact, travel-friendly format.

Browse handheld sex machines for portable options that pack serious power.

Best for: People who want portability, those who prefer to control the exact angle and depth manually, anyone with limited storage space.

Portable Ride-On Machines

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Portable Ride-On Machines

A newer category bridges the gap between full-size saddle machines and handheld devices. These compact ride-on options deliver vibrating, grinding, and even thrusting stimulation in smaller, more discreet packages that can suction to surfaces or be used freestanding.

The Cowgirl Cone packs serious power into a travel-friendly design. Weighing just 2.7 lbs with a 500 lb weight capacity, this cone-shaped machine delivers 20 vibration patterns across 10 intensity levels. It comes with two attachments - The Alamo for penetrative play and The Saddle for external grinding - and offers up to 3 hours of cordless playtime per charge. IPX7 waterproof rating means it's shower-ready, too.

For riders who want penetration plus external stimulation, The Cowgirl Rodeo Rider delivers a true 2-in-1 hands-free experience. This compact machine features a moveable thrusting dildo with a bulbous, G-spot-curved head alongside a clitoral tapper that transitions from gentle taps to thrilling bursts. With 5 thrusting speeds and 5 tapping modes independently controlled, you can dial in exactly the combination your body craves. The extra-strong suction base attaches securely to smooth surfaces, and at just 0.9 lbs, it's light enough to reposition mid-session. Ultra-quiet at 68 dB - quieter than conversation.

If external stimulation is your preference, The Cowgirl Rodeo Rumbler focuses entirely on grinding pleasure. This lightweight (0.78 lbs) rideable machine combines powerful vibrations with a clitoral tapper for dual external stimulation - no penetration required. The flexible silicone design conforms to your body as you grind, while 5 vibration modes and 5 tapping modes give you plenty of combinations to explore. Perfect for recreating those pillow-grinding sensations with way more power behind them.

All three portable options include wireless remote controls for hands-free adjustments and magnetic USB charging for convenience.

Best for: People who love saddle-style stimulation but need something more portable, apartment dwellers with limited space, travelers, those who want powerful vibration without a large footprint, and anyone exploring what kind of stimulation works best for their body.

Before You Begin: Setup Tips

Regardless of which machine type you're using, certain preparation steps apply across the board.

Choose the Right Location

For saddle machines - You need a flat, stable floor. Avoid thick carpet if possible - hardwood, tile, or low-pile flooring works best. The machine's weight and your movement create force that needs a solid foundation.

For thrusting machines - Consider where you'll position your body. Floor-standing models need open floor space. Tabletop models need a sturdy surface at the right height. Some can be clamped to bed frames or furniture edges.

For handheld machines - You have the most flexibility here. Bed, couch, floor with pillows - anywhere you can comfortably position yourself works.

Gather Your Supplies

Before you start, have everything within reach:

• Your chosen attachment (if applicable)

• Water-based lubricant - and plenty of it

• Remote control or phone with app ready

• Towels for cleanup and comfort

• Pillows for positioning support

• Water to stay hydrated

Test the Controls First

Power on your machine and run through all settings before you're in a vulnerable position. Learn where the speed controls are, how to switch patterns, and most importantly, how to stop everything quickly. You want adjustments to feel intuitive when you're in the moment.

Why Lube Is Non-Negotiable (For Every Machine Type)

Let's be direct: lubricant is essential for sex machine play, regardless of which type you're using or how naturally lubricated you get.

Why it matters more with machines:

• Sustained stimulation creates more friction than typical partnered sex

• Machine attachments are firmer than human anatomy

• You can't rely on a partner to pause and let natural lubrication catch up

• Silicone attachments, while body-safe, aren't self-lubricating

What to use: Water-based lubricant is the safest choice for silicone attachments. Silicone-based lubes can degrade silicone toys over time, making them porous and harder to clean. Stick with water-based formulas and reapply as needed - they absorb into skin during longer sessions.

How much: More than you think. Apply generously to yourself and the attachment. You can always wipe away excess, but stopping mid-session because of friction isn't fun.

How to Use a Saddle (Ride-On) Sex Machine

Saddle machines offer a unique experience: you're in control of the movement while the machine provides consistent, tireless stimulation. Here's how to make the most of that dynamic.

Choosing Your Attachment

Most saddle machines come with both penetrative and non-penetrative options.

Non-penetrative attachments (like the Rawhide or Bareback) provide broad surface contact for grinding and external stimulation. These are ideal for:

• First-time machine users learning the controls

• People who prefer clitoral stimulation

• Warm-up before switching to penetrative options

• Anyone who enjoys outercourse

Penetrative attachments come in various shapes for different sensations:

• Curved designs (like the Lone Ranger) target the G-spot or prostate

• Realistic shapes (like the Bronco) mimic anatomical texture

• Dual-stimulation options (like the Buckwild) offer double penetration

Check out the complete attachment collection to find your perfect match.

Step-by-Step: Your First Ride

Step 1: Warm up your body

Your body needs arousal before machine play delivers maximum pleasure. Spend time with manual stimulation, a wand vibrator, or whatever gets you turned on. The more aroused you are, the more receptive you'll be to the machine's intensity.

Step 2: Position yourself

Straddle the machine with your knees on either side of the saddle. If using a penetrative attachment, lower yourself slowly, letting your body adjust to the insertion. You control the depth - use your legs to lift and lower as needed.

For non-penetrative attachments, position yourself so the silicone makes full contact with your vulva, perineum, or wherever you want stimulation.

Step 3: Start at the lowest setting

Turn on vibration at minimum intensity. Give yourself a full minute to acclimate before increasing power. Those 6,500 RPM will be there when you're ready - there's no rush.

Step 4: Find your rhythm

The machine provides consistent stimulation, but you create the movement. Experiment with:

• Slow forward and backward rocks

• Circular hip movements

• Lifting up and lowering down rhythmically

• Holding completely still and letting the vibration work

Step 5: Explore the settings

Once comfortable, try different vibration patterns and the rotation feature. Some people prefer steady vibration; others love pulsing patterns. The 360-degree rotation on penetrative attachments adds a swirling sensation many find intensely pleasurable.

Step 6: Use your hands

Your hands are free - use them! Touch your nipples, stroke your inner thighs, run fingers through your hair. Adding manual stimulation to other erogenous zones amplifies everything.

Best Positions for Saddle Machines

The Standard Ride - Kneel astride facing forward, weight distributed between your knees. Maximum control over depth and easy access to controls.

The Lean Back - From standard position, lean back supporting yourself with arms behind you. This shifts penetrative attachment angles for better G-spot contact.

The Forward Fold - Lean forward from standard position, resting forearms on a pillow. Exposes more of your vulva to non-penetrative attachments.

Missionary Mode - Tilt the machine onto its side and lie on your back with hips against the attachment. Perfect for complete relaxation during stimulation.

The Squat - Instead of kneeling, squat over the machine with feet planted. Deepest penetration angle - keep something stable nearby for balance.

Reverse Cowgirl - Face backward, either kneeling or squatting. Completely changes the stimulation angle.

For more detailed position breakdowns, see our complete sex machine positions guide.

How to Use a Thrusting Sex Machine

Thrusting machines flip the script - instead of you creating the movement, the machine does the work while you receive. This requires different setup and positioning strategies.

Setting Up Your Thrusting Machine

Stability is everything. A thrusting machine generates significant force with each stroke. If it's not secured properly, it will push itself backward or shift during use.

• Use any included clamps or suction cups

• Place on a non-slip surface or rubber mat

• Position against a wall or sturdy furniture if needed

• Some users place the machine base under their feet for added stability

Adjust height and angle before you begin. Most thrusting machines have adjustable legs or positioning options. Set these while you can see what you're doing - not while you're already in position and aroused.

Test the stroke length. Many machines offer adjustable thrust depth. Start with shorter strokes and increase once you know how your body responds.

Step-by-Step: Using a Thrusting Machine

Step 1: Position the machine

Place the machine where you can comfortably receive it based on your chosen position. For doggy style, this might be on the floor behind where you'll kneel. For missionary, it might be elevated on a sturdy surface.

Step 2: Warm up thoroughly

Thrusting machines deliver repetitive penetration - your body needs to be ready. Spend extra time on foreplay, use fingers or smaller toys first, and ensure you're genuinely aroused before introducing the machine.

Step 3: Apply generous lube

Coat both yourself and the attachment liberally. Thrusting creates more friction than grinding, and you'll want things very slippery.

Step 4: Align carefully

Position your body so the attachment enters at a comfortable angle. This often requires some adjustment - don't be frustrated if it takes a few tries to find the right spot.

Step 5: Start at the slowest speed with shortest stroke

Begin with minimal settings. Let your body adjust to the rhythm before increasing intensity. Pay attention to the angle - if something feels off, stop and reposition rather than pushing through discomfort.

Step 6: Find your sweet spot

Once comfortable, experiment with:

• Increasing speed gradually

• Lengthening the stroke depth

• Adjusting the machine's angle

• Adding a vibrator for clitoral stimulation

• Changing your body position

Step 7: Breathe

Thrusting machines can feel intense. If you're getting overwhelmed, focus on deep, steady breaths. This keeps you relaxed and helps you stay present with the sensations rather than tensing up.

Best Positions for Thrusting Machines

Doggy Style: The classic. Get on hands and knees with the machine positioned behind you. Use pillows under your hips to adjust the angle. This position allows deep penetration and easy G-spot or prostate targeting.

Edge of Bed: Lie on your back at the edge of a bed or table with the machine positioned to thrust toward you. Great for relaxation and adding clitoral stimulation with your hands or a vibrator.

Missionary Variation: Similar to edge of bed, but with your legs raised or resting on a wall. Gravity plus thrusting creates intense sensation.

Standing: Bend over a sturdy surface (table, desk, counter) with the machine behind you. This position works well for people who find kneeling uncomfortable.

Side-Lying: Lie on your side with the machine positioned accordingly. A gentler option that's easier on knees and wrists.

How to Use a Handheld Sex Machine

Handheld machines combine the thrusting power of larger machines with the control of traditional toys. You're holding and maneuvering the device, which means technique matters.

Getting the Most from Handheld Machines

Grip matters. Find a comfortable grip that lets you control angle and depth without fatiguing your hand or wrist. Some people prefer overhand grip, others underhand - experiment to find what feels natural.

Use your other hand. One major advantage of handheld machines: your other hand is free for clitoral stimulation, nipple play, or bracing yourself.

Let the machine work. The temptation is to thrust manually on top of the machine's motion. Resist this - it creates unpredictable movement and tires you out. Hold steady and let the machine establish its rhythm.

Position for access. You need to comfortably reach your genitals (or your partner's) while holding the device. Propped pillows, strategic positioning, and finding the right angle all matter.

Step-by-Step: Using a Handheld Machine

Step 1: Get comfortable

Find a position where you can easily reach yourself with the device. Propped against pillows in bed works well for many people. Others prefer squatting or lying on their side.

Step 2: Lube everything

Apply water-based lubricant to the attachment and yourself. Handheld machines require more reapplication since you're controlling depth and may withdraw fully between strokes.

Step 3: Start externally

Before penetration, use the device externally. Let the vibrations (if equipped) or gentle contact help with arousal and give you a feel for the machine's power.

Step 4: Insert slowly

Guide the attachment inside gradually. Unlike stationary machines, you control exactly how deep and at what angle.

Step 5: Find your rhythm

Let the machine thrust while you hold it steady. Adjust angle and depth based on what feels good. Some people prefer to move the machine in and out themselves at first before engaging the motor.

Step 6: Experiment with angles

Small angle changes make big differences in sensation. Tilt the device to target your G-spot, prostate, or other sensitive areas.

Best Positions for Handheld Machines

Reclined: Prop yourself against pillows at about 45 degrees. This gives easy access and a clear view of what you're doing.

On Your Back: Classic masturbation position. Bend your knees and plant your feet for stability.

Squatting: Provides excellent access and lets gravity assist with depth.

Doggy Style (with partner): Your partner can use the handheld machine on you from behind while you're on hands and knees.

Partnered Missionary: Your partner controls the device while you lie back - combines machine stimulation with intimacy.

Using Your Sex Machine with a Partner

Any sex machine becomes more exciting with a partner involved. Here are ways to incorporate different machine types into couples play.

Partner Control

Hand over the remote (or app control) to your partner. Letting someone else control your pleasure while you focus purely on sensation creates a delicious power dynamic. This works with all machine types - saddle machines, thrusting machines, and app-enabled handheld devices.

Establish communication signals beforehand. Verbal cues work, or agree on taps and gestures if you prefer non-verbal communication.

Simultaneous Stimulation

While you're using the machine, your partner can:

• Provide oral stimulation to other areas

• Kiss your neck, nipples, or inner thighs

• Whisper in your ear

• Hold and caress you

Double Penetration with a Partner

With saddle machines, your partner can enter you from behind while you ride a penetrative attachment - true double penetration with machine-powered consistency.

With thrusting machines, your partner can provide oral or manual stimulation while the machine handles penetration, or vice versa.

Long-Distance Play

App-controlled machines let partners control your experience from anywhere in the world. This makes sex machines particularly valuable for long-distance relationships. Your partner can adjust speed, patterns, and intensity in real-time while you video chat.

For more couples ideas, see our complete guide to couples sex machine play.

Essential Safety Tips for All Machine Types

Sex machines are powerful. Respecting that power keeps play pleasurable and safe.

Start slow. Always. This applies to every machine type. Even if you're experienced with sex toys, machines deliver different intensities. Let your body acclimate before turning things up.

Listen to your body. Pain is a signal to stop and reassess. Discomfort might mean a wrong angle, too much speed, or an attachment that doesn't fit your body. Adjust rather than pushing through.

Take breaks. Extended sessions can cause overstimulation, muscle fatigue, or soreness. There's no endurance prize. Pause, hydrate, and check in with yourself.

Use body-safe attachments only. Stick with 100% medical-grade silicone attachments designed for your machine. Random toys might technically fit but may not be body-safe or properly secured.

Check equipment before each use. Look for damage to cords, attachments, or mechanical parts. If something looks worn or compromised, don't use it.

Keep thrusting machines stable. A shifting machine can thrust at unexpected angles. Secure it properly before every session.

Know your stop button. Be able to turn off any machine immediately and instinctively. Practice finding controls in the dark if you play with lights dimmed.

Cleaning and Maintenance

Proper cleaning keeps your machine performing well and protects your health. Different parts require different care.

Cleaning Attachments

After every use:

1. Remove the attachment from the machine

2. Wash with mild, fragrance-free soap and warm water

3. Rinse thoroughly - soap residue can cause irritation

4. Dry completely with a clean, lint-free cloth

5. Let air-dry fully before storing

For deeper sanitization, use a dedicated toy cleaner. Some non-motorized silicone attachments can be boiled for 3-5 minutes - check manufacturer instructions first.

Cleaning the Machine Body

Saddle machines: Wipe down the saddle and any surfaces that contacted body fluids with a damp cloth. Don't submerge the machine body in water.

Thrusting machines: Wipe down the arm and any exposed surfaces. Pay attention to where the attachment connects - lube and fluids can accumulate there.

Handheld machines: Wipe the body with a damp cloth, being careful around any charging ports or buttons.

Storage

Store machines in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight. Keep attachments in breathable storage bags, separated from each other to prevent material interaction. Remove batteries from battery-powered devices if storing long-term.

Aftercare Matters

What happens after play matters as much as the play itself.

Hydrate. Sexual activity is physically demanding. Drink water.

Urinate. Peeing after any sexual activity helps flush bacteria from the urethra and reduces UTI risk - especially important after penetrative play.

Clean up. Wash yourself with warm water, particularly if lubricant has spread. Avoid harsh soaps on genital tissue.

Rest. Give yourself time to come back to earth. Lie down, breathe, let your heart rate return to normal.

Check in emotionally. Intense orgasms can sometimes trigger unexpected emotions. This is completely normal. Be gentle with yourself.

Debrief with partners. If you played together, talk about what worked, what felt amazing, and what you might try differently. This strengthens connection and improves future sessions.

Troubleshooting Common Issues

"It feels too intense"

• Start at lower settings and increase more gradually

• Use a non-penetrative attachment to acclimate to vibration

• Take breaks and return when sensitivity decreases

• Try different positions that give you more control over pressure

"I can't find the right angle"

• Experiment with pillows and positioning props

• Adjust machine height or tilt if possible

• Try completely different positions - what works for others might not work for your body

• With thrusting machines, small adjustments to your hip angle make big differences

"The machine keeps moving"

• Place on a non-slip surface or rubber mat

• Use clamps or suction cups if included

• Position against a wall or heavy furniture

• For thrusting machines, place the base under your feet or knees

"I'm not reaching orgasm"

• Add clitoral stimulation with a vibrator or your hand

• Focus on building arousal before introducing the machine

• Experiment with different attachment shapes

• Try varying the speed and pattern rather than staying constant

• Remove the pressure to orgasm - sometimes taking away the goal helps you arrive there

"My body gets tired before I finish"

• Use positioning supports like the sex pillow wedge

• Try positions that don't strain your knees or wrists

• Consider a position change mid-session

• For saddle machines, easy rider slings can reduce leg fatigue

Frequently Asked Questions

Which type of sex machine should I start with?

For most beginners, a saddle machine offers the gentlest learning curve because you control the pressure and depth. Handheld machines are good if you want something portable and familiar to use. Thrusting machines require more setup but deliver sensations closer to partnered penetrative sex.

Can I use a sex machine for anal play?

Yes, all three types work for anal stimulation. Choose smaller attachments designed for anal use, use even more lubricant than vaginal play requires, and start slower. The anus needs more time to relax than vaginal muscles. See our anal play guide for detailed tips.

Are sex machines loud?

Volume varies significantly by model. Premium machines like The Cowgirl operate around 70 decibels - roughly conversation volume. Budget machines, especially thrusting models, can be significantly louder. Check specifications before purchasing if discretion matters.

Can all genders use sex machines?

Absolutely. Sex machines are designed for bodies, not genders. Attachments exist for clitoral stimulation, vaginal penetration, prostate stimulation, and perineal massage. Everyone is welcome on this ride.

How do I introduce a sex machine to my partner?

Have the conversation outside the bedroom when neither of you is aroused. Express curiosity positively, explain what interests you about it, and give your partner time to ask questions without pressure. Our couples vibrator guide offers detailed scripts for this conversation.

What if the attachment feels too big or too small?

Attachments come in various sizes. Start with smaller options and work up as your body adjusts. Too small? Try a different shape or add external stimulation. Most premium machines offer extensive attachment options to find your perfect fit.

Can I use my own dildos with a sex machine?

Many machines use Vac-U-Lock or similar universal attachment systems that accept compatible toys. However, only use attachments designed for machine use - regular dildos may not be securely attached and could come loose during operation.

How often should I use a sex machine?

As often as feels good for your body. There's no "too much" unless you're experiencing soreness or irritation. Listen to your body, take rest days if needed, and prioritize pleasure over frequency.